When it comes to caregiving for a family member, family dynamics can play a big part in the caregiver’s outlook. For people who have been brought up by caring parents who provided for all their needs, offering the same level of care may just be second nature. But what if you’ve been scarred by childhood experiences, determined to stay away from difficult family relations later in life, simply to wind up going back to look after them in a time of need?
AARP offers some helpful suggestions for family members who would like to do something to overcome old wounds in the interest of providing care:
- Create emotional boundaries. It’s feasible to deliver compassionate Denton home care while staying emotionally detached. Visualize taking care of the needs of someone you’d never met, and strive to keep that mindset with difficult parents, working to keep personal feelings and hurts out of the picture while meeting his or her care needs with compassion.
- Try separating the past from the present. While your family member may have demonstrated a pattern of causing you anguish in the past, perhaps with indignant outbursts or deprecating comments, it’s important to differentiate that pain from current struggles. As an example, someone with Alzheimer’s may go through a stage of aggressive behavior that is a hallmark challenge associated with the disease, as opposed to a continuation of parenting mistakes.
- Change your expectations. Some members of the family walk into a caregiving role with the aim of changing the course of a relationship, convinced that if perhaps they release past hurts and supply the very best possible care, the individual will soon be changed into someone caring, kind and considerate after a lifetime of difficulties. The fact remains, fairy tale endings are few in number. Keeping expected results realistic may help lessen possible future disappointments.
Above all, recognize that nobody has to feel “stuck” in looking after a difficult family member. The professional Denton home healthcare team at Heaven at Home Senior Care is fully trained, experienced, and equipped to give you the very skilled and compassionate care which allows family peace of mind. A number of the ways we are able to help include:
- Personal care assistance, such as with bathing, dressing, and using the toilet
- Planning and preparing meals
- Keeping the home environment neat and organized
- Running errands
- Providing transportation to health appointments as well as other outings
- Post-hospitalization care
- And more
Give us a call at 866-381-0500 for a free in-home assessment and to discover a senior care solution that can work for your family.