If you want to see a family that has unending patience with each other, stays together through any situation and has unconditional love for each other, you’ll want to watch reruns of The Waltons. But if your family members are similar to most, there’s definitely some degree of dysfunction, some lingering stubborn sibling rivalry, and even a bit of residual competition to be Mom’s and Dad’s favorite. As the need for elderly care increases and the family once again has to band together to support them, old childhood hurts can resurface and family dynamics can be exacerbated.
Clinical psychologist Craig Grether shares, “When there is a family crisis with a parent, the adult children, no matter how educated they are, no matter how successful, with a variety of life experiences, they regress to the same dynamic of whatever was going on when they were 7, 8, 10, 12 years old.”
The fact is, roughly 40% of family caregivers have significant family conflicts, and 65% believe that care needs are usually unequally distributed among siblings. Trouble commonly arises as soon as there’s a notion that one member of the family isn’t pulling his or her weight with regards to meeting the proper care demands of an elderly loved one – reigniting any past family dynamic concerns that until now might appear to have been laid to rest. With family caregivers vulnerable to such concerns as depressive disorders, alcohol or other substance abuse, sleeping disorders, and career pressures, it’s understandable how rapidly emotions can surface between family members.
So, just how can members of the family come together and make a plan of care that’s fair to all? The conclusion: there are times when it’s just not attainable, and it’s necessary to come to a place of acceptance that your younger sister might not be ready, for whatever reason, to handle caring for Mom at the level you’d like. Releasing preconceived expectations as well as any feelings of resentment is vital to finding peace for yourself and being able to focus on providing the best care for your older loved one.
Whatever your family’s dynamics, Heaven at Home Senior Care in Denton, TX is there to supply a steady, reliable resource to make certain that all care needs are entirely fulfilled at all times. We assist families to help fill in the gaps in caregiving, allowing them to concentrate on spending quality time with each other and alleviating the stress often associated with meeting a senior loved one’s everyday needs. Contact us at (940) 432-5670 to find out more.